When we are being raped, someone is literally imposing their will on us. We realize at that point we are powerless and there is no escape. Rape is a power-grab. Unhealed childhood sexual abuse can cause us to feel like others are forcing their opinions down our throat even when that is not happening. When... Continue Reading →
The Liberation in Epigenetics
I don't buy that we are a slave to our genes. While we may not be able to change our eye color, we are able to re-write our genetic predispositoins to physical maladies. It is much easier for us to deal with physical illness than to deal with the emotions they might mask so this... Continue Reading →
Why I support activism and the search for Truth
Why I support activism and the search for Truth ...And how my friend's activism saved my own life. I woke up under unusual circumstances. On May 1st of 2013, I saw a video posted on my friend's timeline. I got post traumatic stress symptoms for quite some time after watching it and spending months doing... Continue Reading →
Anger
I often feel shame after using my voice firmly. I was raised to be a "nice girl" (polite, lady-like, quiet, docile, and people-pleasing). Many of us women were raised this way, yes? When I express my voice firmly, I always feel like I have done something terribly wrong. The shame is crippling. People don't even... Continue Reading →
Taking Things Personally
I think taking things personally is useful if we have the intention to use our triggers as a catalyst for our healing journey. But if our intention is to not use them, then the below quote might helpful. "Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally… Nothing other people do is because of you. It... Continue Reading →
The Authority Within Part III
I used to be a member of a diet cult back in 2014. Instead of listening to my own body, I allowed the elite members to dictate what I ate and drank and how I ate and drank. It wasn't their fault; it's a choice I had made. I made the active choice to blindly... Continue Reading →
How Awareness of the Negative Helps Us Make Better Choices and Live Well
Our culture is obsessed with avoiding the Dark and truth seekers are often thought of as dwelling on the negative, however, there is good reason why it's important to know some things that are less than pleasant.... There are some negative things I had to learn in order for me to live a positive life.... Continue Reading →
Normalizing Objectification: Empowering Choices Versus Disempowering Choices and the Underappreciated Difference
Trauma is likely to be repressed or partially repressed from childhood. However, whether the trauma is consciously remembered or not, it is likely to be normalized into adulthood as a means of survival and false empowerment unless there was something in that child's life that taught them what happened to them was wrong and not... Continue Reading →
Betraying Ourselves to Fit into Society
One of the hardest things to do is to be true to the Self. Most of us like to think we are being true, but are we really? I know it can be so hard for me to set boundaries and own them without wavering. Time and time again, I re-open up closed doors just... Continue Reading →
Sometimes It’s Not About You
It's OK to take things personally sometimes to bring up those buried emotions from unhealed wounds of the past to the surface. We need to take things personally for our healing journey if you consider that. If someone has made you upset, it is not a weakness; it is a call to give full expression... Continue Reading →
You Are Loveable Even If You Are Negative
If people get on your butt for being negative, it's only because they judge themselves for being negative. They don't love themselves unconditionally. So, please never let anyone shame your realness. We are multifaceted souls and each have our own unique spark. Let it shine!
Why Self-Hate is Loving
The most loving thing you can do is allow your self-hatred. Anytime you resist your own honesty, anytime you resist where you are or who you are at any given moment, you are resisting yourself. You are saying "no" to your authenticity. It's that resistance that is unloving. If you really love yourself or... Continue Reading →
How to Deal with Narcissists
How not to be a victim and how to take responsibility for our own feelings and move to a place of empowerment. Change can only happen within and relationships with others help with that. This is why it's so important to have some semblance of a social life as others teach us inadvertently who we... Continue Reading →
Love With Expensive Strings Attached
How can we expect to have a partner or a spouse in a relationship that works when we can't even be ourselves around that person? Do we really want to have a partner that doesn't think we are good enough as we are? If we have to modify our face, our hair, our clothes, our... Continue Reading →
The Universe Needs You
The thing is, we ALL have gifts! Nobody is better than anyone. We ALL have something to offer this world. If you don't see that now, you will later. If YOU did not exist, all the Universes would collapse. Why? Because, again, the Universes NEED your UNIQUE spark and SPECIAL gifts. Even if you think... Continue Reading →
Support is Everything
Some may minimize what you're going through, but I for one totally understand and it's REAL. Only the brave walk this path. And not only are you brave to walk it, you are brave to be so transparent and honest about what you're going through in a world that belittles itself and others. The fact... Continue Reading →
Shine Your Own Light
Jealousy is not a problem; it's the symptom of not recognizing your own gifts and expressing them. Whatever goes unexpressed or unrecognized is acted out as resentment and hatred toward those who have acknowledged their own greatness. Happiness is an inside job. We all have free will. We can choose to be other people's victims... Continue Reading →
The Authority Within
We can argue all day long about the "truth", but unless we have personal experience with it, unless we can be objective critics of that experience, and unless we have some common sense carried over from intuition and previous lifetimes, we are only just making noise. You can find a study that suits your bias... Continue Reading →
Demystifying the Inner Psychic
There is nothing mysterious or woo about being psychic. We're all psychic. The difference between psychics and those who don't think they are all depend on whether or not we believe in ourselves. And then there are many ways one can be psychic. There is clairvoyance, clairsentience, clairaudience, clairscent, clairtangency, clairempathy, clairgustance and channeling. Then... Continue Reading →
How Else Would We Remember Who We Were?
I think physical and emotional pain is why we are here as pain is a catalyst to our soul's growth which should lead to our eventual remembering of who we really are. We are to resist anesthetizing it and feel it if we are to move out of victimhood into true empowerment. So, yes, while... Continue Reading →