The reason compassion for others is missing in our world might be because we lack compassion for ourselves. And the reason why we lack compassion for ourselves is because it was never given to us. I am not talking sympathy or flattery here. I am talking about REAL COMPASSION. Compassion is relating to other's pain and... Continue Reading →
When we carry unresolved trauma (and we all have been traumatized to some degree or another), our past rules our thoughts, our dreams, our behaviors, our addictions, our choices, our beLIEfs, and our health. One thing that brings us all together is that we are living in the past while not being conscious of it.... Continue Reading →
I have a lot of wisdom on relationships --- not because I'm smart, but because I stink at relationships. I say this with a grin on my face because I know it's true. Slowly, very slowly, I learn about myself through my mistakes. If one door closes, another one opens and I get a new... Continue Reading →
I have never fit into this culture. Even in misfit groups or clubs, I still find myself all alone and not able to relate to anyone. There are only just my husband and a couple people I relate to and that is it. I don't think that my misfithood makes me superior to others, though.... Continue Reading →
FOR THOSE ON THE HEALING JOURNEY: We might start doing the healing work addressing childhood trauma only after an adult trauma takes place. Why must adult trauma happen? Haven't we been through enough BS in our childhoods? So many of us are not doing the nose-to-the-grindstone grueling blood sweat and tears work of healing... Continue Reading →
I've seen this all my life. Something unfortunate happens and this person is angry. I'll say "I understand; it's OK to be angry" and they'll respond saying "I'm not angry" or something to that tune when clearly they are angry. They are obsessing over the event and continue to rant about it or project... Continue Reading →
We all grow in stages and we all step on the same rungs to get from one place in our development to the next. Each rung to the top has everyone's footprints on it. To think you can pull people out of stages that you used to be in and force them to be where... Continue Reading →
The God Complex on the Road to Awakening I used to get stuck in the trap of "spiritual ego" or that dark place where I used to think I was better than others. I used to talk to my husband about this and it helped a lot. I knew it was a problem, but I... Continue Reading →
Those who refuse to look at themselves, will see themselves in others.
I am not entirely sure who I am. When I talk with people, I am wearing a mask and depending on who I am talking to, I wear a different mask. The more judgmental a person is, the thicker the mask I might wear. I have a large arsenal of masks right at my disposal.... Continue Reading →
This prison that is the all or nothing lifestyle. One of the most difficult things to do is appreciate and see all the complex shades of gray in life. Often, we only see black or white, this extreme or that extreme. Liberal vs conservative, atheist vs believer, carnivore vs vegan, man vs woman, spirituality vs... Continue Reading →
We often tell others how to think, feel, and live coming from a simplistic view of humanity. We might do this not because we are stupid or mean, but because we don't know or understand ourselves or why we are here. So we tell others how to do life based on how little we understand... Continue Reading →
....And overcoming the inner and outer Debbie Downers of the world..... There will be people who will try and stop your light, people who will be unconsciously jealous and people who will label and misunderstand your passion for a pathology. Don't give them that power, let them go and do what you want anyway. I... Continue Reading →
If we learn only the light about our own country, we are ignorant. If we learn only about the darkness of our own country, we are ignorant. If we learn only about the light in other countries, we are ignorant. If we learn only of the darkness in other countries, we are, again, ignorant. If... Continue Reading →
A perfect way to see our past is through the relationships we have with others in the present. Wonky relationships in the present are sometimes associated with pathological relationships we have had with our role models growing up. We might normalize a dysfunctional upbringing (if we haven't completely repressed it) as a means to cope,... Continue Reading →
The reason why so many of us prefer nonhuman animals as companions is probably because animals really know how to be a friend. The nonhuman animal will love you if you are cranky, enraged, self-pitying, depressed, helpless, hopeless, terrified, grief-stricken, can't get over it, sad, stuck, unmotivated, whiny, angry, impatient, negative, ignorant, fat, sick or... Continue Reading →
My opinion on the importance of duality or yin and yang. We curse the Dark as it should not even be allowed here. We complain about the negative and the dark aspects of ourselves, others and life, but the truth is that everything that exists is needed. It doesn't mean we have to like it,... Continue Reading →
What better way to learn judgment isn't kind than to be on the receiving end of judgement ourselves? While being judged might feel like a curse at first, it's a blessing in disguise if we use it as tool to learn not to judge others....since we know how it feels. And we might not learn... Continue Reading →
It is easy to be kind to those who are just like us. But if we are the kind people we say we are, we will even be kind to those who are different from us. That is how true kindness works. Can you co-exist with someone who marches to a different drum? Or do... Continue Reading →
We may not feel safe in the scariest deepest darkest depth of our shadow unless there is a ray of light to help us feel safe to 'go there'. And we may not be able to embody light unless we have first faced, fully, the dark. This could be the Divine Law of Opposites at... Continue Reading →
I have been the mother and the daughter. I have been the father and the son. I have been the slave. I have been the master, the victim, the perpetrator. I have been every species, been to every country and have spoken every tongue. I have experienced every season and every climate. I have died... Continue Reading →
In modern-day spiritual communities inspired by eastern religion, it's often said to avoid getting attached to other people. The whole point of this experience, however, might be to attach in the human form. In Spirit, we are already attached and intimately connected to one another since separation is but an illusion. Now, in the physical,... Continue Reading →
I often hear "If Source is love, why does life hurt so much?" "Why does Source allow bad things to happen?" Could it be we feel that way due to our conditioning that hardship is a bad thing? If we use our challenges as a catalyst to make ourselves better people, then we can see... Continue Reading →
The thing is, we ALL have gifts! Nobody is better than anyone. We ALL have something to offer this world. If you don't see that now, you will later. If YOU did not exist, all the Universes would collapse. Why? Because, again, the Universes NEED your UNIQUE spark and SPECIAL gifts. Even if you think... Continue Reading →
Jealousy is not a problem; it's the symptom of not recognizing your own gifts and expressing them. Whatever goes unexpressed or unrecognized is acted out as resentment and hatred toward those who have acknowledged their own greatness. Happiness is an inside job. We all have free will. We can choose to be other people's victims... Continue Reading →
Heaven is not supposed to be on Earth. Earth is supposed to be on Earth. Earth is perfect the way it is. We humans ascribe pain and suffering as a negative when it's really a divine catalyst for our own soul's growth. That's why we even come here. We don't come here because the food... Continue Reading →
I have been reading these two books and while they don't mention "astrology" or our "astrological charts", they are all about how we create our own "charts" before we incarnate on Earth. Before we incarnate, we have "pre-birth planning sessions" with our spirit guides and our soul group and during those sessions we create a... Continue Reading →
There is individuation, but there is no separation.
"The world we exist in is a stage. That people sign up to play roles of "good and bad" people. Since they are performances, they are actors playing the role of the bad guy. For example, Desdemona doesn't go up to Othello after the play and say "You killed me!" Rather they comment on how... Continue Reading →
Off the Beaten Path 