Most things about me are slow and "late to the party" for a lack of a better term. My mom used to call me a "dumb Pollack" growing up because it takes me a long time to learn new things. I am also slow to understand what people are saying and often ask people to... Continue Reading →
...and how to help people when they are down...... People can appear to be "stuck in victimhood". To resolve this, ask yourself why this happens. When you feel you have the answer, but are still silently condemning or are still irritated or feel the need to lecture, then you might not know the real reason... Continue Reading →
I have a need (like all of us) to be seen, heard, and acknowledged. So, what can we do with this primal need when it comes to relationships? Looking deeply at myself in relations with others, I am wondering if it might be unrealistic to expect to feel seen when the other party is triggered.... Continue Reading →
It is not difficult to brainwash people. Our culture is based on submission to authority and has a high respect for people in high places such as academia. Many of us drop our discernment at scientism, degrees, status, or when an older dignified-looking man is talking with impressive language. If there is something you want... Continue Reading →
You Will Be Too Much for some People. Those aren't your people. Says Glennon Melton. Grieve if you must if an ending shall be. Don't let this wisdom hold you from your grief. Don't use it to bypass emotions you need to express to heal earlier wounds. At the same time, take comfort in the... Continue Reading →
This is an old post I wrote a couple months ago when I still had my Facebook, so I will share it here as well. Today was a big day for me. I had a good deep release while my friend held space for me. After the release, a lot of insights started to rush... Continue Reading →
Some of us are passive aggressive because as children, we lost our voice. There are very few parents who allow their children to confront them with questions, feelings or problems.....all wind up being filed under the infamous catch-all we call "back talk". If we talk back to our parents, the punishment can be devastating and... Continue Reading →
It's not so much adult trauma that shapes us. The traumas that shape our lives and rule us from the shadows come from repressed childhood trauma. The reason adult trauma might have such an impact might be because it's causing the forgotten childhood trauma up to the surface through emotional flashbacks. Anytime we have a... Continue Reading →
If we sincerely want to see child abuse end and if we want to see better quality adults, it's starts in validating survivors' experiences and feelings as real. Validation, if sincere, helps people heal. A healed person is likely to become a productive member of society and very unlikely to create more victims.
You have to understand WHY people turn out the way they do in order to get to a point where you no longer condemn them. Condemnation is merely the result of not understanding the reason behind other's behavior. When we understand, we create a place for compassion to be born. When we understand, we can... Continue Reading →
Over the years, I have developed my own measuring stick to see if someone might be genuine or not. I am more likely to give unpopular ordinary people a chance. The truth is offensive, inconvenient, unpopular, controversial, painful and what eventually liberates us. The more challenged you feel by the information, sometimes this might mean... Continue Reading →
People who unconsciously feel powerless in their own lives, might seek power and worship power outside themselves. They may love to obey and be agreeable to those they deem more authoritative than themselves and they may also seek to control those who they deem lesser an authority than themselves. This is one of many... Continue Reading →
If we sincerely want to see child abuse end and if we want to see better quality adults, it's starts in validating survivors' experiences and feelings as real. Validation, if sincere, helps people heal. A healed person is likely to become a productive member of society and very unlikely to create more victims.
Try to read for intention instead of words. I promise you, the amount of times you misunderstand others will be reduced. We are all on different dimensions and define words so differently from one another. The word empathy, love, God, judgement, acceptance, evolution, science, awake, spirit, Christmas, ..... the list is wicked long. We all... Continue Reading →
Merry Christmas Happy New Year Happy Holidays Happy Birthday Just be happy! Hope you feel better Hope everything's OK What's good? What's UP? Hope you are feeling better. How are you? with the expectations the other will respond with "I'm fine." Don't worry; be happy. Our culture might be a little obsessed with happiness. The... Continue Reading →
I don't really stress as much as I used to because I now see life as a video game after so many years of feeling the victim. Not that I'm using this mindset as an escapist route, but rather I let myself experience life the way it is but knowing nothing is personal does take... Continue Reading →
Did you know you can hide posts from select friends on FB? It's so funny. I instinctively know what each of my friends likes and doesn't likes. I can see right through people not because I'm smart, but because I don't the way it feels to be judged. I'm a born people-pleaser not because I... Continue Reading →
I wonder if the reason why people are less likely to change their political views (or any views) is because we might speak to our audience in a smug, hateful, condescending manner that serves to shame the opposition. When people feel attacked, they are less likely to listen to our point of view. How do... Continue Reading →
It's easy to misunderstand someone as our perception might be limited to the understanding we have of ourselves. But it doesn't end there. Also, too much left-brain and not enough right-brain action might be responsible: "THE PROBLEM WITH WORDS The right-hemisphere mode of function, as we have noted, has a greater facility in working... Continue Reading →
How not to be a victim and how to take responsibility for our own feelings and move to a place of empowerment. Change can only happen within and relationships with others help with that. This is why it's so important to have some semblance of a social life as others teach us inadvertently who we... Continue Reading →
Psychobabble is a derogatory term that some of us use when we read something too deep for our minds to comprehend. It happens to a lot of us. So, instead of accepting it is our problem, we get angry and direct our anger toward the messenger. And instead of being curious, asking questions and/or accepting... Continue Reading →
Jealousy is not a problem; it’s the symptom of not recognizing your own gifts and expressing them. Whatever goes unexpressed or unrecognized is acted out as resentment and hatred toward those who have acknowledged their own greatness. Happiness is an inside job. We all have free will. We can choose to be other people’s victims or begin cultivating and expressing our unique spark in the world. It’s up to you. Nobody is responsible for you, but you. You came here with a special gift and it’s up to you to actualize it. Shine your own light.
So much is blamed on China, but I have a gut feeling that most if not all technology and plastics are made from slave labor all over the world. It's probably going on in the US too. Wouldn't be surprised if it was. Even if my assertion is not true, there is a way we... Continue Reading →
