Surely enough, in a utopian society, discernment, intuition and critical thinking would not be needed; we could believe everyone, trust everyone knowing it's impossible we'd ever be exploited or hurt. We would not need to lock our doors at night. We would not need locks at all. We wouldn't need banks because everyone would be... Continue Reading →
I see your energy and you see mine. And then we decide how to relate with one another. It sometimes doesn't matter what we think of ourselves or the language we use to describe ourselves, it's our energy that tells the truth. Energy does not lie. Energy comes from the subconscious aspects of ourselves (the... Continue Reading →
It's not so much adult trauma that shapes us. The traumas that shape our lives and rule us from the shadows come from repressed childhood trauma. The reason adult trauma might have such an impact might be because it's causing the forgotten childhood trauma up to the surface through emotional flashbacks. Anytime we have a... Continue Reading →
Love your enemies Love people from a distance Forgive your enemies Why are we often asking each other to be false? We have this notion that being nice to people we don't like is the high road or a sign of maturity. If you genuinely feel this way toward your enemies and you're not deceiving... Continue Reading →
I think there is such thing as ungrounded spiritual beliefs as there is such thing as beliefs being too spiritually materialistic and overly logical. In a black and white all or nothing world, I think the truth is often in the middle. Maybe we cannot learn unless we explore both extremes and check out each... Continue Reading →
The tricky thing about boundaries is that I might have a boundary that conflicts with yours. Basically we all have some boundaries. The friendships that last are the ones in which both parties' boundaries do not conflict. An old friend of mine said that she preferred to do something this way, but there was no... Continue Reading →
"For years mental health professionals taught people that they could be psychologically healthy without social support, that "unless you love yourself, no one else will love you." ...The truth is, you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved. The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation." ~Bruce D. Perry, M.D.,... Continue Reading →
The real elephant in the room might be childhood sexual abuse. I intuit it is the most repressed and ignored abuse there is. The reason why it's so ignored might be because it's just too painful. The stats on childhood molestation are dishonest. I suggest most sexual abuse happens to little boys and little girls... Continue Reading →
Saying the "right" stuff vs being Real "When a friend comes to me because they’re upset about something I did, I want to say the right thing. So I think and think and analyze the facts. How can I take responsibility for what happened? How can I be mature about this situation? How can I... Continue Reading →
....or remember...... When we are being abused as children, if the abuse is severe enough, we might leave the body and temporarily go off into another dimension. This might help us survive the abuse so that we can function in the world afterward. Our coping strategies serve us as children, but as adults these dissociative... Continue Reading →
You know how they say the eye of the storm is the safest place to be? Some practicioners in body-centered cathartic therapeutic models might call this a "primal". The primal is the "eye of the storm"... For the cathartic emotional release aspect of our healing journey, we might find that we start out emoting outside... Continue Reading →
I used to be concerned with being spiritual back in 2014 when I started dipping my feet into popular spirituality, but over the last few years, my main concern is centered on being authentic. That is going to include (expressed in a safe environment) all of my authentic violent blood-red rage, anger, shame, sadness, terror,... Continue Reading →
We have likes and dislikes. But in a world where we are conditioned to believe that truth does not exist --- that there is only perception, I theorize that maybe it's the opposite. Maybe there are no perspectives or seeing things differently. With regard to absolute Truth, maybe there is only the Truth and untruths.... Continue Reading →
I am not an astrologer, but I have been studying over a hundred charts over the last three years and what I have noticed is that families will often have placements in common. I believe there is a method to this madness. It feels right for me to postulate that we create our own birth... Continue Reading →
Off the Beaten Path 