Trauma and The Fight, Flight, or Freeze Response

“Before researching trauma, I had never connected what Dr. Herman refers to as an “altered state” with how I coped with incest. If we can’t “fight or flee,” we go into an altered state. Once such state is “freezing.” We don’t decide to freeze. It’s involuntary. “If the terror continues, the child may move from... Continue Reading →

Why More People Need to Feel Sorry for Themselves

Feeling sorry for ourselves and the infamous "self-pity" is really self-compassion. And it's very very rare. Our culture shuns and shames anyone who pities or feels sorry for themselves as we have all heard our parents and elders saying "Stop feeling sorry for yourself!". We have heard our culture saying "You're stuck in self-pity; get... Continue Reading →

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