Stockholm Syndrome keeps people thinking that their abuse was normal. Unless the native wakes up, they will continue the cycle of abuse be it on their own spouses, friends, children, pets or anybody they meet and... maybe even on themselves. Stockholm Syndrome is how victims of verbal, physical, psychological, energetic and sexual abuse survive.... Continue Reading →
Triggers could be reminding us to feel so we can heal. There are few accidents. We all come into each other's lives to help each other grow up. The healing process all begins with a trigger (if we let it). Triggers are gifts. Emotions act like the idiot light in your car. We can either... Continue Reading →
When we think of emotions, we are often confusing them with the resistance to them in the form of acting them out and lashing out on people in anger. Those are not emotions. That's lashing out and blaming. They are fueled by the resistance to emotions. Rash decisions, threats, controlling behavior, manipulation and judgment is... Continue Reading →
Are you shut down or healed? There is a notable difference. I used to be desensitised up until the time I was 31; I was like a stone. I didn't feel much of anything. When I went to events where people would cry like retreats, graduations or funerals, I was usually was one of the... Continue Reading →
It is now very trendy to tell people to resist thinking negative thoughts and to just block them out of our minds when they happen, but this is a form of anesthesia and you might notice that no matter how hard you resist these thoughts, they won't go away until you learn WHY they are... Continue Reading →
I joined this health cult/group back in the summer of 2014 and we all got cocky thinking we were deprogramming when in reality we were only REprogramming our minds with new programs. Same prison; different floor tiles. Now my deprogramming journey is not only about deprogramming from mainstream ideologies but also newage/truther ideologies. It's all... Continue Reading →
I don't celebrate any holiday and I don't belong to any religion, but if someone wishes me a Merry Christmas, instead of feeling victimized or persecuted, I choose to see their intention instead ...which is to wish me well! Even if I were depressed and hated Christmas? If someone is taking time to wish me... Continue Reading →
When I was in therapy, one of the best pieces of advice I ever got was when my therapist told me "You are responsible for your actions, but you are never responsible for someone else's feelings." Of course in this context, she was talking about the feelings of adults and how we should be responsible... Continue Reading →
I think taking things personally is useful if we have the intention to use our triggers as a catalyst for our healing journey. But if our intention is to not use them, then the below quote might helpful. "Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally… Nothing other people do is because of you. It... Continue Reading →
