Stockholm Syndrome keeps people thinking that their abuse was normal. Unless the native wakes up, they will continue the cycle of abuse be it on their own spouses, friends, children, pets or anybody they meet and... maybe even on themselves. Stockholm Syndrome is how victims of verbal, physical, psychological, energetic and sexual abuse survive.... Continue Reading →
Triggers could be reminding us to feel so we can heal. There are few accidents. We all come into each other's lives to help each other grow up. The healing process all begins with a trigger (if we let it). Triggers are gifts. Emotions act like the idiot light in your car. We can either... Continue Reading →
When we think of emotions, we are often confusing them with the resistance to them in the form of acting them out and lashing out on people in anger. Those are not emotions. That's lashing out and blaming. They are fueled by the resistance to emotions. Rash decisions, threats, controlling behavior, manipulation and judgment is... Continue Reading →
Are you shut down or healed? There is a notable difference. I used to be desensitised up until the time I was 31; I was like a stone. I didn't feel much of anything. When I went to events where people would cry like retreats, graduations or funerals, I was usually was one of the... Continue Reading →
It is now very trendy to tell people to resist thinking negative thoughts and to just block them out of our minds when they happen, but this is a form of anesthesia and you might notice that no matter how hard you resist these thoughts, they won't go away until you learn WHY they are... Continue Reading →
I joined this health cult/group back in the summer of 2014 and we all got cocky thinking we were deprogramming when in reality we were only REprogramming our minds with new programs. Same prison; different floor tiles. Now my deprogramming journey is not only about deprogramming from mainstream ideologies but also newage/truther ideologies. It's all... Continue Reading →
I don't celebrate any holiday and I don't belong to any religion, but if someone wishes me a Merry Christmas, instead of feeling victimized or persecuted, I choose to see their intention instead ...which is to wish me well! Even if I were depressed and hated Christmas? If someone is taking time to wish me... Continue Reading →
When I was in therapy, one of the best pieces of advice I ever got was when my therapist told me "You are responsible for your actions, but you are never responsible for someone else's feelings." Of course in this context, she was talking about the feelings of adults and how we should be responsible... Continue Reading →
I think taking things personally is useful if we have the intention to use our triggers as a catalyst for our healing journey. But if our intention is to not use them, then the below quote might helpful. "Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally… Nothing other people do is because of you. It... Continue Reading →
Sometimes being introverted or extroverted is about pain-avoidance. Sometimes we need to avoid pain. Sometimes it is about being afraid to leave our comfort zones. Sometimes it is trauma-based. Sometimes it's not about avoiding pain and more about how we need to be where we are for our growth. Sometimes it's about the experience as... Continue Reading →
It’s no easy task to grow up in a world that glorifies the victim. Look at the lawsuit culture in America. Somebody trips on a grape at the supermarket, they sue and make a lot of money off of that. Our laws are structured to make it the fault of the business instead of the... Continue Reading →
I'm going to discuss the importance of self-responsibility in the context of triggers such as fear and the kind of fear I am talking about isn't to be confused with the fight, flight or freeze response. There is a lot of malicious intentional fear mongering out there. And then there is a lot of truth out... Continue Reading →
Tragedy, pain, loss, and hardship are unpleasant, but I think it's necessary. I don't want bad things to happen to me or others, but I appreciate the reason hardship exists. I think we need uncomfortable events to happen in the world so that we may learn who we are and also learn how to love... Continue Reading →
We think we understand what people are saying and who they are, but in reality, we very rarely if ever do -- especially if we are triggered. We are only seeing what we need to see in others to trigger growth. That said, until we fully heal, all we see outside of us whether they... Continue Reading →
Life can be tricky. There's trusting every person and being suspicious of every person. Both sides are ruled by fear. The key to balance is thinking and intuition. Judging case by case and being discriminating is the action of a wise person not ruled by their past (fear).
There is no fear in Truth. Fear hides in resisting the Truth. Blind idealism and blind optimism are just the other side of fear. The Truth is what will liberate us from it. No light is ever found unless the Dark is faced and felt and embraced. But very few can handle the Truth and... Continue Reading →
Just as we feel physical pain when healing from physical maladies, there is emotional pain if we want to heal emotionally. Pain means you're healing. In the same way we must excrete physical toxins from the body when we're healing physically, we must release emotional ones as well by giving full expression to our emotions... Continue Reading →
We complain about complainers; it's the most common complaint. But when you're really happy, high-vibing and feeling good about yourself, you won't mind people who complain. True happiness is not about resistance; it's about acceptance. As a resistor of people and life myself, I see what it does to my mindspiritbody. Resisting the personality in... Continue Reading →
I don't really stress as much as I used to because I now see life as a video game after so many years of feeling the victim. Not that I'm using this mindset as an escapist route, but rather I let myself experience life the way it is but knowing nothing is personal does take... Continue Reading →
Someone online today had been wondering why emotions are so taboo in society and the following came to mind... My husband often complains about how radio stations and the establishment, in general, marginalize and/or make the emotional variety of classical and operatic musical compositions close to inaccessible. There are so many other examples like this.... Continue Reading →
I used to be a member of a diet cult back in 2014. Instead of listening to my own body, I allowed the elite members to dictate what I ate and drank and how I ate and drank. It wasn't their fault; it's a choice I had made. I made the active choice to blindly... Continue Reading →
This is my perception as to why it is so difficult to understand one another and why some conversations need to end. The reason why it's so difficult to understand each other is because I think we're living in different bubbles (dimensions, frequencies). Each dimension or bubble we live in has different laws of the... Continue Reading →
Our culture is obsessed with avoiding the Dark and truth seekers are often thought of as dwelling on the negative, however, there is good reason why it's important to know some things that are less than pleasant.... There are some negative things I had to learn in order for me to live a positive life.... Continue Reading →
We all learn in stages. We experience life in stages. There's no other way. Nobody goes straight from kindergarten to getting a college degree. We have to experience all the stuff in between. Nobody goes from being a caveman to an enlightened master in a day. Nobody gets to skip a grade in the Game... Continue Reading →
Off the Beaten Path 