How to survive if you are sensitive to other people’s energies. How feeling your feelings might be the best layer of protection you can get.
I want to start out by noting the underappreciated difference between healthfully acknowledging someone else’s energies and being overwhelmed and negatively affected by them. If we are being negatively impacted, I propose that it might be because they are sometimes reflecting back the repressed unconscious unfelt emotions within us. Nobody can make us feel anything that we are not already harboring ourselves. I think this happens because while we are all individuals, we are also connected to each other.
Healing our own repressed wounds of the past and releasing all those toxic disease-causing bottled up emotions might free the most sensitive people from being controlled by the energy of others in a damaging way. Once you start taking responsibility for your own energies and emotions and once you start giving full expression to these emotions, you might find that little by little, you are less affected by the energies and emotions outside of you. I have noticed that through my own healing work, that even as an energetically psychic and sensitive person, I can handle a variety of energies so much better than I used to. I am much stronger now as a result of feeling my feelings.
It is when we don’t own our feelings and energies that we are ruled by them.
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” — Carl Jung
All parties have a responsibility. The outside world is responsible for their energies and we energetically sensitive people are responsible for owning what we experience as our own. Everyone has a responsibility in this. Our responsibility is where our secret power is. Emotions are from repressed childhood trauma and nothing gets healed until we own our own emotions and flashbacks (emotional, physical, visual etc.).
As clairempaths, we will feel other’s emotions from our own vessel. We might have this gift so that we can understand and then be able to help others, but we cannot help others if we have yet to face ourselves. We cannot understand the rage in others unless we, in a safe place, have expressed our own rage. We cannot empathize with one’s shame unless we have felt our own. We cannot accept someone’s feelings of sadness, despair and terror unless we have learned to accept and understand our own. We cannot accept why someone would feel so hopeless and depressed unless we have embraced those feelings within ourselves. We cannot forgive others for their humanness unless we have first forgiven ourselves.
Feeling our own feelings is really the answer to everything.
We need to do our inner work so that we can move from a place of feeling powerlessness and blame to feeling powerful and holding our own so we can use our energy and psychic abilities in positive ways i.e. helping, understanding, validating or supporting others. The idea we need to shield ourselves from the external world comes from a place of resistance, perceived powerlessness, learned helplessness and fear. Some might have to use shields, but if you’re on the deep healing path, they (while they make you feel better) might harm more than help if they are used too often. We are, however, freed by our surrender and willingness to let go of control and just ALLOW Life. Allow yourself. Allow others. Allow feelings. Allow the Dark. That is what, I think, being alive is all about.
Emotion is energy in motion hence the word (E)motion. When we suppress and resist, the flow of life stops. We get stuck. Giving full expression to our feelings might be uncomfortable, but it frees us from all internal prisons.
In short, the kinds of people we attract into our space are sometimes an accident and sometimes unlikely an accident. We might attract what we need into our lives so we can learn who WE are. We are responsible for our own feelings and when we allow those feelings and feel them, we do not need a shield to protect ourselves. We do not need to protect ourselves from anything. We are truly in control of our own lives if we let it. Many of us are afraid of our own power and pop-spirituality could keep us, unwittingly, in that lower fear vibration.
Other people are *sometimes* a mirror of what we have on the inside and when we face ourselves and when we own ourselves, while the world may not change, our experience of it might.
“Maybe the only thing each of us can see is our own shadow. Carl Jung called this his shadow work. He said we never see others. Instead we see only aspects of ourselves that fall over them. Shadows. Projections. Our associations.” –Chuck Palahniuk
Image credits to Mark Evans