Hard Lessons I Learned from Fad Dieting

One thing that’s for sure is that we all die. There is no diet we can go on that will prevent our death. We are all here to do what we came here to do and then die. So whether we’re on the standard western diet, or the Japanese rice diet, the keto diet, the vegan diet, the raw wholefoods diet, the raw fermented meat diet, the Atkins diet, the Paleo Diet, the fruitarian diet, or the Spartan Diet, our soul contracts don’t care. When we’re ready to go back Home, we go. Bacon will not save us and neither will watermelon.

The reason we get ill and die might be much more complicated than we had ever imagined.

So since death is inevitable, while we are alive here, let’s stay for as long as we can, we might wish? Or… while we’re here, let’s not so much stay for as long as possible but rather try not to be in too much pain — unless we’re here to experience certain kinds of pain or diseases? I don’t know. We all have different lessons to learn and different experiences to venture. My mindset is… I’m going to die, so while I am here, I want to feel right in my body. I want my body to work. So, let’s see which lifestyle will actualize this goal? What foods to eat? What to avoid? We wait until we are ill and then we think deeply about these things, don’t we?

We can argue about what is the right diet until the cows come home. The truth might be that there is NO one-size-fits-all paradigm. We all need to eat and drink what works for us and carry on our own unique path tailored just for us even if it means we have to watch others make their own mistakes. How else can we learn?

We need to realize health isn’t always about food, also.

When others are ready to ask for help, we can chime in with advice. But generally people are living out the life-plan they created for themselves and don’t like people poking their noses in it. I learned this the HARD way. What I might do now is share what has worked for me and then if they don’t seem interested, I give up and let them have their own path. And if they seem interested, I give out more information.

Another thing I have learned is that when I used to be on a strict diet, I used to think I was right and everyone else was wrong. I felt so right on my diet. I was on a raw fruitarian diet and I had only eaten once every 21 hours and usually between 300-700 calories a day. And a lot of us pound our chests and we swear we’re on the right path because we have all this energy and have lost all this weight and feel so good. And only if we can help others to get to this same place, how cool would that be? The truth was that I didn’t feel good all the time and any problem I had, I had attributed to “detox” and other made-up reasons I learned from the cult I had been in. And I thought since my diet contradicted the Standard American Diet (S.A.D) that it must be right, right? When’s the last time you ever heard a doctor, a nutritionist or a spiritual guru of any sort recommend eating raw fruit on a regular basis? When was the last time you saw a commercial on TV advertising strawberries from a specific farm?

Eating fruit is about as anti-establishment as you can get. And for men, well they must be hippies, loony liberals, and emasculated to eat fruit. Am I right? At least this is the mindset in the US.

My husband had been on the Standard American Diet and I used to nag him about it ad nauseam since I had always felt helpless while I was watching him get sicker and sicker. I gave him a hard time and I knew I got on his nerves. I really felt like I had it all in the bag, though, and that my information could save his life.

Boy oh boy did I get a piece of humble pie when I got off my 15 day fast on February 7th of 2015. I had begun binge eating and I’ve been binge-eating now for three years. I had gone from a place of self-righteousness to a place of humility really fast when I learned that I had been deficient from not getting enough unrefined salts, vegetables and overt fats. And over the last three years, I had done a lot of experimentation and have come to learn that diet is very very complicated and so very individual. I learned that a raw whole foods plant-based diet might have worked if I had included some overt fats, unrefined salt, vegetables and ate more often. The extremes I took with fasting and enemas also took a toll on me. I had been starving, but I didn’t want to face it because I felt I was on the right path.

I also learned that just because you might feel so right about what you are doing, you could be wrong. Our egos will go out of their way to protect and defend (with our own lives) the diet we are on. We get overconfident and cocky. I also learned that diets can be extreme. One anti-carb. The other one-anti overt fats. And the truth might actually be somewhere in the middle. Perhaps if we just left out obvious process industrialized man-made garbage, we’d be fine? Or if we didn’t overeat? We humans tend to think too black-and-white sometimes and at the expense of our own health. So many of us made the same mistake I had made by turning their lifestyle into a cult. Once your diet becomes a religion, then it’s no longer  about health. It’s a religion since we refuse to see ourselves and our diets objectively. We get information and we repeat it blindly without question. We know all the answers so we are not open to any new information. And when we feel badly, we’re going to blame ANYTHING but our perfect diets.

I know. I’ve been there, done that, sung the song, wore the t-shirt, saw the movie…. Both whole foods plant-based dieters and ketogenic dieters swear they are just following their ancestral diets. We all think we know how our ancestors used to eat. But we don’t. How could we? We weren’t there. There is no way to verify or validate what others are saying about history. It’s all words. It could all be made-up on both ends.

Finally, what many of us may not realize is that there is a huge difference between diet and health and once we see the difference and the dangers of dietary dogma, that is when we become free….. and maybe even healthy as a result of that freedom.

Respect for all on their journeys.
Respect bioindividuality.
Be open to the fact that you might be wrong.
Be open to the fact that diet is different from health.
Be open to the fact that everyone needs to goof up before they wisen up.
Don’t get giddy and overconfident.
You’re still going to die someday.
Enjoy your life. Don’t take it all too seriously.
Don’t take yourself too seriously.
Try to juggle health and humility.

This took me years to learn.

Up above is my before and after picture. Before was when I was on the Standard Western Diet and the After picture is after months of being on a strict raw fruitarian diet which was taken in March of 2015.


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