The Permission to be Confident

Confidence is bad.

Stop that.

Unless you’re an author, a comedian, or a spiritual leader. Then you are allowed to be confident and say anything you want to an audience. But if you’re just an average sweaty human, do not ever be confident as you’ll be labeled as “egotistical”.

Isn’t that funny how that works?

It’s really authority worship at its base. This means that we believe some people are inherently better than others and only those should speak up. Everyone else, in the corner. This means as much as we cry for equality, we really don’t believe we’re all equal. As much as we hate caste systems in society, by our actions, we prefer them. We hate the us vs them mentality yet we live it. And this is brought to us all through our deep social conditioning that authority should be blindly worshiped and our own peers? Questioned, doubted, feared, and dismissed. As a culture we are seduced by what we would deem authority figures.

George Carlin is intelligent, provocative and confident. But if a no-name woman were to have similar thoughts and not be shy to speak them publicly on social media, she will be secretly looked down upon and or shunned.

Matt Kahn is a spiritual guru. He claims to be getting energetic downloads from ascended masters and living in the 8th dimension of consciousness. Women love him and hold on to his every word because he has “credentials”. And he is confident. But get a no-name woman to also share spiritual philosophies, her own downloads, and personal experiences to empower others? Woops!, she is shunned. How dare you speak… you’re not famous. And so, you must are arrogant.

Let’s look at book authors that aren’t even famous, but they write about things we enjoy hearing about, but due to their being an author and since we see authors as “authority”, they are given a free pass to be confident and bold in their opinions. Even if they aren’t even true. But dare a unpopular woman type some deep stuff on a blog, eeeek! She must have some nerve to have all that confidence. Must be narcissism or something.

What is wrong with us? We do this with celebrities too.

Nobody needs to be in an artificial or voted position of authority to be an authority on any topic. Even all the diplomas, fame, recognition, and “schooling” in the world does not make someone “smarter”. We ALL have inner wisdom and the difference between you and George Carlin is whether you recognize and actualize your wisdom or not. There are not people out there made of “better stuff”. We’re all made out of the same Divine Stuffing and so we’re all great, smart, and insightful. As a society, we will never have true equality and peace so long as we think of people or groups of people in terms of better thans or less thans. All hierarchical structures are man-made through mind-conditioning and are a form of violence. And noticing that you are as wise as the Dalai Lama is not arrogant. It’s TRUTH.

I shall leave you with my favorite Orwell quotes. I love this quote because let’s say you are alone in your philosophical ideas and opinions, you are STILL valid. Your insight? Still worthy.

“Being in a minority, even in a minority of one, did not make you mad. There was truth and there was untruth, and if you clung to the truth even against the whole world, you were not mad.” ~George Orwell

And one more relevant quote:

“The smallest minority on earth is the individual. Those who deny individual rights cannot claim to be defenders of minorities.” –Anonymous

Bottom line: We are ALL, not the same, but each other’s equal. That’s the nature of our Divine Connectivity. It’s a good thing to get used to.

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